''Acknowledging fear is not a cause for depression or discouragement. Because we possess such fear, we are also potentially entitled to experience fearlessness. True fearlessness is not the reduction of fear;but going beyond fear.''- The secret path of the warrior book Emotional Intelligence is one of vital need especially when it comes to love!I would like to share with you the difference between Fear vs. Fearlessness according to the Shambhala method. First Step:
To realise basic goodness- to appreciate what we have.But then we should look further and more precisely at what we are,where we are, who we are, when we are and how we are as human beings.Basic goodness is connected to the idea of the ''awakened heart''. Such heart means you are able to face your state of mind. It is not an easy task, few have tried to connect really to their heart when making decisions. |Why?Because you fear you may discover something terrible about yourself. Second Step: Sitting practise of meditation is the Shambhala method to rediscover basic goodness as we spoke above, and beyond that, it is the means to awaken your heart within yourself. When you sit in the posture of meditation, you are exactly naked man or women. When you slouch, you are protecting your heart by hiding it. When you sit upright and tall your heart is naked!
So though this practise of sitting tall and following your breath as it goes out and dissolves you are connecting to your heart. Once your heart is open like a raw meat no skin to cover it you can experience unconditional love. Love is to be vulnerable not to avoid expressing this feelings. Even if a mosquito lands on it , you would feel so touched. Once your heart is full, you can spill hear's blood to others. Third Step: Fearlessness For the warrior, the experience of sad and tender heart is what gives birth to fearlessness. Take a note , we are not talking about a street-fighter's abilities here. Real fearlessness is a product of tenderness. It comes from letting the world tickle your heart, your raw and beautiful heart. You are willing to open up without resistance and shyness, and face the world. Otherwise why do you even have a heart if you are not using it.
Once you have accepted the fear and faced it, you have transformed it into warriorship. The most common fear people in love face is the fear of rejection. Many stay in that fear for ever not being able to express their true feelings and most regret for not coming forward. Imagine holding feelings for years, all you do is blocking your throat chakra form expression and getting stiff muscles. Fear evolves into fearlessness naturally. The ideal warriorship is the ideal balance between sad and tender. Without the heartfelt sadness, bravery is brittle.If you drop it, it will break.But the bravery of the warrior is like lacquer cup. The cup can only bounce but never break as it is soft and hard at the same time.Just like a warrior! Be brave and love unconditionally! Love and light, Tanya Hadzhieva